Marriage and Mindset
We have covered a lot of material in the last weeks on mindset. The concept of mindset is not something most people think about or are even very aware of. Mindset is the one thing that will make the difference between a great wedding day and a wedding day that you can’t wait to be over. It can even spill over into your marriage.
One of the most important concepts related to mindset is being aware of yourself. Starting today, be aware of when you start to get angry or feel yourself getting frustrated with others.
- What is making you frustrated?
- What is making you angry?
- How do you see that person right now?
When you are more aware of how you react in certain situations and why, you will be more aware of things we call “triggers”. These “triggers” are certain things or feelings that make you aware you are moving toward an inward mindset. The other reason to be aware of your triggers is time.
Your mindset can shift in an instant. Without you knowing it, you go from a calm, cool, and collected person to someone who is bent on sabotaging their own day. This is, in my opinion, the biggest danger of an inward mindset. With this, you can actually hurt your own wedding and feel justified doing it. This is why it is so critical to be aware of your triggers and use some of the tools covered in this series (like SAM) to help get you back to an outward mindset.
I hope you have enjoyed this series. To further learn about the outward mindset you can also read Leadership and Self Deception, Anatomy of Peace, and the Outward Mindset written by the Arbinger Institute. If you are a more visual learner, you can watch this webinar as one of the founding partners explains mindset. If you would like coaching on how to implement mindset into your business please contact the Restart Specialist.